At two points in my life I have achieved major fitness goals and what I perceived as my 'ideal' body, or at least pretty close to it. I learned a number of lessons along the way but the most important thing I came to realize is that my life was still my life - even at my 'ideal' weight. I still got up and went to work. People still treated me more or less the same. The biggest changes I experienced were as a result of my shifting attitudes and actions, the way I was perceiving the world.
Here are 2 Key things you can do to be happy and live in your 'ideal' body.
1. Associate happiness with the present.
Why postpone happy?
Many times we attach happiness to a future event:
I'll be happy when I get that job...
I'll be happy when I graduate...
I'll be happy when I lose 10, 20, or 50 pounds...
I'll be happy when (you fill in the blank).
The thing is, most often, life isn't drastically different at X pounds. Are there improvements? Yes - absolutely! But, there are still hardships, disappointments and even new frustrations. If your thoughts, daily actions and attitudes are still the same, your perception of the world and therefore your experience of life will most likely be pretty much the same with just a slightly different flavor.
Happiness is found in your daily actions and your journey not in your results and accomplishments.
2. Love yourself.
It sounds really simple but it can be a big transition. Mentally and physically, really dig deep and give yourself permission to accept who and what you are. All the way from my curvy hips to my chubby cheeks, I honestly smile at myself in the mirror with affection now. If you are working toward some physical goal to gain or lose weight, tone up or lean out, that doesn't mean you can't appreciate the skin you are in right now. Treat yourself like your most cherished possession and you may notice progress comes easier as you eliminate toxic foods and toxic thoughts not because you hate this or that about your body, but because you love yourself too much to do things that no longer serve you. Strive for goals from a place of celebration of what your body is versus a place of frustration and dissatisfaction with what it isn't.
How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now, and there will never be a time when it is not now.
- Gerald Jampolsky